Dr Sangeetha Madhu - The 3 R's

3 R's to harmony Relationships, Resilience, Reflections

’No significant learning can take place without a significant relationship ‘–James Corner.

An overwhelming need to achieve peace and harmony, left me looking for a suitable definition of mind and its components. I chanced upon Dr. Dan Siegel who describes the word mindsight as a part of interpersonal neurobiology. Mindsight is defined as our capacity to perceive ourselves and others, to understand our inner lives with clarity, integrate the brain, enhance relationships, and bring harmony. He enumerates in his TED talk on the 3 R’s – relationships, resilience, and reflection. 

Research evidence points out that sense of belongingness leads to internal motivation, and the ability to take risks and be resilient in the face of setbacks. Reflection is related to mindfulness, Metacognitive skills, emotional regulation, and flexibility. The ability to reflect leads to a sense of control/autonomy, more clarity, increased problem-solving ability, self-efficacy, task completion, and higher levels of engagement. Follow effective action with quiet reflection, then quiet reflection with more effective action -Peter Drucker. 

Healthy relationships and self-reflective exercises have immense benefits in improving resilience which is the capacity to face obstacles and still persevere, moving beyond the comfort zone, persistence, grit, determination, and tenacity. Building resilience means to celebrate efforts, look at failures as learning experiences, flexible thinking, inspiring, scaffolding, providing emotional support, motivation, feedback, learning through trial, and error. ‘I am not what happens to me , I am what I choose to become ‘- Carl Jung